Cup of Coffee and a thought, defending my right to have ONE child.

Why is it that where ever you are someone has to ask the infamous, "when are you having number two?"  I am starting to hate that question. Really badly. My son is happy as an only child. I am one of 5, and my parents struggled with all of us, financially, mentally, and all the other ways you could be. I feel like I could do with less of explaining my reasons to people of no more children. I could do with less of people telling me my reasons are basically selfish. I could do less of people rolling their eyes at my saying "I almost died, I do not want to go through it again." I do not want my hubby to go through what Ashley on "Gone with the Wind " had to go through when his wife Mellie died when she was preggers. My pregnancy was a difficult one and I am done explaining to people why I do not want any more children.

I know my financial limitations, and another child is something we can not afford, and that is another thing people just say why to me and then point out that my son is not that expensive. Um, he is at the doctor a lot for his skin. Diapers are expensive and so is formula. And I DO NOT WANT ANOTHER CHILD! Why can not people accept that I am very very very happy with my son? Just because you decided to have 2 or 3 or even 4 kids doesn't mean I have to. When did it become mandatory that I have to have more children? Please let me know.
He will be lonely. Um, no he wont. He will have friends when he gets into school. He will not be lonely. I was one of 5 and I played alone more that I did with my siblings. We fought. He will be fine, and I know many people that were only children and they were fine.
Only a few people understand my issues, my mother, my mother in law, my grandma,sister, and my grandma in law. Basically, my family and closest friends. It is not selfish to not want another child, why do people make it that way. And so far, they are the only ones that support that decision that my hubby and I made.
It is our decision and no one else's. We are the ones that have to decide this stuff. We are the ones that have to take care of things, not you. Please leave us alone and just accept what I have to say. My son will be an only child. There. Done. Finished, you don't need to know why. And you certainly do not have to argue with me about it. It is not your Uterus.
I am sorry readers for this rant. But for any of you who have experienced this knows my pain. And if you haven't think of it as being with the same person for 5+ years and getting asked "When are you getting married?" or "When are you having kids?" It is right up there with those questions.
What are your thoughts on this? Any advice on how to handle this? I am to the point of telling certain people off if they don't let up.
#stressedoutmama

A cup of coffee and a thought. Cookies for Santa.

Today was a great day out. Not only did I get some window shopping done,sigh. I also was able to take little man to see Santa Claus. It was a brief encounter with the man of the season. We took him to see Santa in his Starwars shirt and, you know what that was fine. I was not going to be the mom forcing uncomfortable Christmas elf clothing. No Santa hats, no tinsel;just little man as Santa knew him. Comfortable and clean. As well as cute. He was not drowing in red baby Santa attire. And while he was the most dressed down, he was the most comfortable and didn't cry. I figured a better picture would be had this way. However, if you dress your kids up like that good for you,it just isn't my cup of eggnog.  I think the formal Christmas attire is ok, most of my nieces photos with Santa are with that. But, just not elf like costumes.
Anyways, I am so proud of my baby boy. He handled it well.
After photoswith Santa we went on a mission to find a cookies for Santa cup and plate. We found them. For 12.99 -19.99. Why is that so Expensive? Really? Let's pay for something like that, when back in the day it was a glass of the cow and a dessert plate of cookies. So, I have a cheese platter of Santa's head and I have a red cup to match. But, here is my dilema. I am very lactose intolerant and  Hubby could drink the milk. But we could do a bit of the wink-wink, nod-nod eggnog(spiked) . Santa wont mind that, right?  He wont mind the good ol nog.
So, what do you leave for Santa? On Peppa pig it is a mince pie and a "drink".

More or less, thoughts on 2014.

It's Nablopomo December on BlogHer and this theme is more and less. Or more or less. Whatever. It made me think of my expectations for next year. So here is a list of what I am thinking.
1. More sleep. Yeah, I am hoping for more sleep in 2014.
2. Less worrying. That won't happen but for certain things I am hoping it will.
3. More financial freedom. Who doesn't want more of this? I need this badly. Which is why I work so diligently on my eBay store and why my hubby works as hard as he does. By the way great stuff is for sale right now!
4. Less debts. Dear Santa, please deliver some ways for debts to be solved. By means on number 3 on this list.  In 2014 I want my debts to be poof (GONE).
5.MORE CLOTHES. Nothing I own fits. If it fits it's not right. My body has changed and although I am down to 113 lbs again. I need hot mama clothes that fit well. 
6. New bras. See reason 5.
7.less run ins with Nature. I mean ants and other critters getting into or trying to get into my home. This means you bears! 
8. More exercise. I do exercise but need more.
9. More "me" time. I think as mommies we cheat ourselves of pure uninterrupted "me" time. We feel guilty or never get it. Because we don't take the time.
10. More makeup and real clothes days. Ok, living in yoga pants and tanks is not really my thing. But, right now my actual clothes aren't fitting the best. To be honest neither do my Yoga pants. They are too big. I don't wear cosmetics as much as I want to. Yes, I love makeup. I like wearing it.
11. More showers. This falls into number9 as well.  I sometimes can not fit it in... until baby is asleep. Then I am too tired to. Mommies you know what I am going through.

This is my list..so far.

New tooth and lights.

It has been a very busy and grouchy last couple of days. My baby has now got one of his front teeth. I can now hear all I want for Christmas is my 2 front teeth, my two front teeth, yes my two front te eth. That song is trapped in my noodle(head). But he has his tooth and all is ok. We finished the lights, well sort of. We still have those darn icicle lights to put up.  But even without them our house looks good. There was a wonderful Christmas house we are going to take pictures of hopefully tonight. Walk there fast take pic and leave. It's dark but we will have a torch. (Too much Peppa Pig)
Stay tuned!

Happy December 1st!

Have a holly jolly Sunday, it is now December. We can now listen to Christmas music without feeling a bit silly. The lights are almost done and I am excited about this holiday season at the same time as not feeling excited about this holiday season. It is going to be my baby's first Christmas, and although I know he will have the best I feel like I can not do as much as I want to. I am not talking about toys per say, he has plenty for under the tree. But for other reasons. Some of the things I used to make each year I can't this year. The money just is not there. And people think it would be OK if THEY pay for part, no. It isn't the same. I can not ask that, we just wont have any.
A bit of  Christmas cheer and the spirit of the season was witnessed yesterday at a local Walmart. By your's truly. I didn't do the cheer, I was the one who was going to recieve it. While at the check out line, I forgot 4 jars of baby food. So, I went back to get them the cashier held my items at the check out. It was 6Am and no one but me and a few other people were there. She thought I couldn't pay for my son's food or for my food in my cart. I just took the cart with me so it wasn't in the way. She assumed that I was putting food back. So, she asked the cashier if she could pay towards my groceries. A nice and sweet gesture. The cashier explained what happened and the lady went on her way. But, think about it. That is really what this season should be about. The spirit of giving and good will towards others. Put them first. I have to say, it put me in an excellent mood and a warm feeling was there. Thank you lady, where ever you are.