Cup of Coffee and a thought, defending my right to have ONE child.

Why is it that where ever you are someone has to ask the infamous, "when are you having number two?"  I am starting to hate that question. Really badly. My son is happy as an only child. I am one of 5, and my parents struggled with all of us, financially, mentally, and all the other ways you could be. I feel like I could do with less of explaining my reasons to people of no more children. I could do with less of people telling me my reasons are basically selfish. I could do less of people rolling their eyes at my saying "I almost died, I do not want to go through it again." I do not want my hubby to go through what Ashley on "Gone with the Wind " had to go through when his wife Mellie died when she was preggers. My pregnancy was a difficult one and I am done explaining to people why I do not want any more children.

I know my financial limitations, and another child is something we can not afford, and that is another thing people just say why to me and then point out that my son is not that expensive. Um, he is at the doctor a lot for his skin. Diapers are expensive and so is formula. And I DO NOT WANT ANOTHER CHILD! Why can not people accept that I am very very very happy with my son? Just because you decided to have 2 or 3 or even 4 kids doesn't mean I have to. When did it become mandatory that I have to have more children? Please let me know.
He will be lonely. Um, no he wont. He will have friends when he gets into school. He will not be lonely. I was one of 5 and I played alone more that I did with my siblings. We fought. He will be fine, and I know many people that were only children and they were fine.
Only a few people understand my issues, my mother, my mother in law, my grandma,sister, and my grandma in law. Basically, my family and closest friends. It is not selfish to not want another child, why do people make it that way. And so far, they are the only ones that support that decision that my hubby and I made.
It is our decision and no one else's. We are the ones that have to decide this stuff. We are the ones that have to take care of things, not you. Please leave us alone and just accept what I have to say. My son will be an only child. There. Done. Finished, you don't need to know why. And you certainly do not have to argue with me about it. It is not your Uterus.
I am sorry readers for this rant. But for any of you who have experienced this knows my pain. And if you haven't think of it as being with the same person for 5+ years and getting asked "When are you getting married?" or "When are you having kids?" It is right up there with those questions.
What are your thoughts on this? Any advice on how to handle this? I am to the point of telling certain people off if they don't let up.
#stressedoutmama

A cup of coffee and a thought. Cookies for Santa.

Today was a great day out. Not only did I get some window shopping done,sigh. I also was able to take little man to see Santa Claus. It was a brief encounter with the man of the season. We took him to see Santa in his Starwars shirt and, you know what that was fine. I was not going to be the mom forcing uncomfortable Christmas elf clothing. No Santa hats, no tinsel;just little man as Santa knew him. Comfortable and clean. As well as cute. He was not drowing in red baby Santa attire. And while he was the most dressed down, he was the most comfortable and didn't cry. I figured a better picture would be had this way. However, if you dress your kids up like that good for you,it just isn't my cup of eggnog.  I think the formal Christmas attire is ok, most of my nieces photos with Santa are with that. But, just not elf like costumes.
Anyways, I am so proud of my baby boy. He handled it well.
After photoswith Santa we went on a mission to find a cookies for Santa cup and plate. We found them. For 12.99 -19.99. Why is that so Expensive? Really? Let's pay for something like that, when back in the day it was a glass of the cow and a dessert plate of cookies. So, I have a cheese platter of Santa's head and I have a red cup to match. But, here is my dilema. I am very lactose intolerant and  Hubby could drink the milk. But we could do a bit of the wink-wink, nod-nod eggnog(spiked) . Santa wont mind that, right?  He wont mind the good ol nog.
So, what do you leave for Santa? On Peppa pig it is a mince pie and a "drink".

A cup of coffee and a thought, cranberry sauce.

We all have cranberry sauce or sometimes chutney at Thanksgiving  Do you prefer homemade cranberry sauce or from a can? Do you like the jelly or the chunky sauce from the can?
I prefer homemade. I booze it up a bit with some wine. Most of the alcohol cooks out but leaves the flavor. If out of a can I like the jelly.

My cranberry sauce:

1 bag of fresh cranberries

1 cup of  sugar

1/2 cup of Reisling wine

 1/2 tsp orange zest

Bring cranberries, wine, sugar, and zest to a boil. then reduce heat to a simmer. You will hear cranberries pop as they cook. The liquid will reduce by half after 15-20 minutes. Can be frozen. Is Amazing on vanilla ice cream.

A cup of coffee and a thought, Dealing with PPD.

I am still struggling with Post partum depression, 8 months later you would think it would be better. Well, I have mostly good days. But here lately it has been going back to how I was back in June when I finally admitted I needed help. Then my Neurologist took my off my meds for it. That was back in August. But, I am still having problems with it. 

This morning it hit me in the face, I cried so hard. Yesterday, I cried and today I cried more. I am thinking a combination of  dryer being dead, Christmas coming up, Thanksgiving stress, and my son's impetigo is trying to come back because his excema is bad. No one will let me call the Doctor for a rx. It is past home remedies. All of this going on and I broke down. 

As I sat there on my bed after looking at Facebook, something I promised I wouldn't look at. I saw my family at Seaworld and we weren't there. We couldn't, so I missed my nieces bday. Another nail in the coffin.I sat there on my bed sobbing and rocking my baby. Then I noticed, somehow the booger turned in my arms and was facing me. He nuzzeled his head on my shoulder and he squeezed me. I also got pats on my back and rubbies. Just like I do to him when he cries. My sweet little man was comforting his mama. He even started to baby sing. This just made my heart melt and I stopped crying. I held him close and he looked at me.

My boy put his hand on my face as to let me know it was OK, and then there was that smile. That smile can cure any signs of the blues.Babies are truly little miracles and nothing but pure love. 

My world

Coffee and eBay, this is my morning. Coffee and a Thought.

Happy Sunday all. This morning I am drinking my Barnies Santa's White Christmas coffee and playing with my eBay store, Chippey's Shoppe. I am finishing up listing the Yankee candle that I found unopened. I can not burn a cookie scented candle, it makes me too hungry all the time. My boy was up at 5 AM today so I havc been up for a bit. I need more coffee. I also got to finish listing some stuff for eBay. Lemax Christmas and baby clothes. I am not sure how to go about listing a baby bath, bassinet, or car seat. I have all three needing to be sold and am worried about shipping. Other sellers list the items and car seat shipping was $75. I mean it is heavy it comes with 2 bases. Local pick up perhaps? Maybe Craig's list. Thoughts?
My store has become my job definitely and I have the cutest Vice president of sales ever! He is the happiest worker ever, even if he just gets in the way. He loves having his pic taken, so he is always in the way of pictures for listing. It is one of the reasons it takes me forever and a day to list, but I love it. Wouldn't you?
The smiles and baby babble make it the reason's I work so hard, and forgive that he is trying to eat the product. Right now he is grouching on the floor with his bottle, I guess it made him mad.
 Yesterday, I over did it, I scrubbed the floors by hand and am feeling it today. so I didn't get much eBay done. What do you think Pajama day? Do any of you feel like a lazy couch potato if you lounge in pj's for a day? I end up getting dressed anyway and cleaning. I have this new obsession, I am constantly feeling like my house isn't clean enough. I guess this came about when I first moved into my home. It was a disaster, and I am still not done cleaning from that. The renters had destroyed it. The carpet was an animal litter box, and I found hedgehog needles, different cat fuzz,dog fuzz, different bird feathers, bunny poops; these people had a zoo. The kitchen looked like it was never cleaned. The bathrooms were in the same state. SO, I obsessively clean. Wouldn't you? I told my mom and dad about all that, and they told me all the stuff they found when they renovated our house in St Louis. I am amazed by what people do.
So, yeah, instead of relaxing I will probably clean, again. Last night I was washing clothes and hanging dry because our dryer broke and my oven wont SHUT OFF! What in the world is going on?! All I know is it sucks.When it rains it pours and I feel like I have been stuck in a never ending Monsoon. Just got to stay strong and keep the faith, right? Yup.

A cup of coffee and a thought, real housewives.

Call me dorky but I love that mug.My thought today is around the Real Housewives of whatever. These wealthy women bounce around to dinners,parties,events, and it is all around a bunch of people they hate. The Real Housewives started here in the U.S.A., but after much popularity there have been spin offs in other countries. The one I just finished watching was Vancouver. All I can say is wow, there was more backstabbing there on that show than on any of their U.S.A. counter parts. OK, except Jersey. Cause Teresa is some kind of looney. But, she makes it funny to watch. Rosie, makes it hilarious! The fights on this international Version were somewhat painful to watch, there was some really viscous attacks on one person. And there was plenty of "I got your back", followed up with nothing and no help from said friend. I couldn't stop watching this Canadian train wreck, and am actually sad they didn't make a season 3. But, after reading the Youtube comments against Jodi, it is no wonder why Slice said no more. Watch the show and see why.

There was a lot of fights when there shouldn't have been, but it is no different than Miami where they fight everywhere. Can we have one set of Housewives that get along? Please!!!  The Beverly hills team made me hopeful, that at last there was a group dynamic that worked. It worked at was good. For the most part they got along in season 1, except for Kyle and Kim's fight at Taylor's birthday party. They were a breath of REAL fresh air. Even though Kyle and Camille started off bad, they made up and moved on. It was nice. Season 2 was still comradery, but there was a shift in friends. Then it just got worse, and ended up on O.C. level of fiendish behavior. Just wow, season 3 left me speechless and I felt bad for Lisa. 

All of the fighting made me realize something, can they for once act like men and not like teenage highschoolers. Look at how the men on Miami made up, they said their piece and then dropped it. Um, ladies learn from that. You are not in high school anymore.

But, the real thing is this, have any of us left that mentality? In office politics behavior like that is prominent, I have witnessed and been involved with it. Desperate to get out of it, I felt high school drama is not good for women in their 20's,30's 40's and 50's. But, it is there. "Can you believe she wore stilettos and is pregnant?"

Those were the whispers I heard, and put a stop to it. What is your thought about the housewives? Do you think the word bully gets tossed around too much on the show? Which is your fave? And whose fashion and closet would you like?

I want Lisa's closet, but LOVE Kyle's style.